Posts Tagged ‘God’

About what, exactly, was he “sorry”?

Wednesday, March 27th, 2013

Recently, my ex claimed that he was “very sorry for everything that happened in the past.” It’s now two and a half weeks later. He continues to be in contempt of, well, everything, and still isn’t supporting his child at all.

He brags about how he “got saved” and is doing things that “the Lord put on [his] heart”. Odd kind of god he’s got, who “puts on his heart” to be a liar and a deadbeat dad. But then, his wife has the same god, and she’s been committing fraud for years, including identity theft not too long ago.

Is it any wonder that “Christians” have such a bad reputation?

“As We Understood God” Part 2

Thursday, January 12th, 2012

I spoke yesterday with a trusted friend who has worked through so many of the same issues as I face. I asked him about “the Third Step” which, for codependents, is:

We…made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

I told him that I was coming at this “turning over to God” thing from a background where that meant “do as you’re told, no matter how much you don’t like it”. This friend already knows that I have a background of being altogether (and often unknowingly) willing to do as I’m told. But this has almost never been to my benefit.

He pointed out that surely a loving Higher Power would not want me doing things that harm myself or others. I had to agree. So, he said, this suggests that part of submitting to God is the act of ceasing submitting to other people, especially those who direct me to do harm. Part of submitting is doing what is good (though this will often not be easy, fun, or comfortable) for myself.

I’m not sure I “get” this, entirely, but I think I can work with it. And that’s good enough for now.