Comments for Braden Bryce

Comment on Sleigh bells? Something’s ringing…. by Vaneck B.

Vaneck B. — Thu, 14 Mar 2013 20:35:50 +0000

I’ve got tinnitus, too, and it has been very bad recently. It’s giving me insomnia, and that’s making me argumentative and even angry. It’s so frustrating! I can sympathize with you!

Comment on Looking forward to court on the 24th by F.B.

F.B. — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 14:11:02 +0000

The best thing is to plan for the longer term and make time to be happy!

Comment on Low Self-Esteem Patterns (1) by Lara W

Lara W — Sun, 20 Jan 2013 14:50:33 +0000

I didn’t get my friend the help that she needed and now she is dead. Sometimes I feel like I hate myself. I wish I’d understood in time what she was going through. She deserved better.

Comment on What is “good” in a relationship? by D. Raquel Bryant

D. Raquel Bryant — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 16:40:46 +0000

Many thanks for taking the risk to speak about this!

Comment on About by Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 02 Jul 2012 20:25:08 +0000

Thank you for your message. Yes, I'm afraid "Braden Bryce" is just a coincidence. I bought this domain name more than fifteen years ago for an entirely different purpose which, in the end, never panned out. "Braden" is my paternal grandmother's maiden name; "Bryce" is my son's middle name. Like the tagline for this blog says, "It made sense at the time." But the heart of your message points out something that you, I, and so many others have discovered: Rather than being the only one in this gaslighting situation inflicted by our own personal "crazy-maker", we each are actually one of a legion of hurting people. We just hadn't realized it, in large part due precisely to the isolation imposed on us by our abusers. I'm not familiar with the "Freedom Session" twelve steps you mention; I am trying to work through the Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous, which is modelled somewhat on the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. I don't think the particular program matters so much as the ability of your program to help you! Please let me know if you would like to continue this conversation via e-mail. Thank you.

Comment on About by Michael

Michael — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 07:05:33 +0000

Hi June,

If this just a coincidence in name, please forgive me. However I am pretty good at “reading” people and good judge of characters. If it’s not a coincidence, then….

I met you and “Braden” at FAC over Sunday brunch. I moved in to his house.

I am sorry that you have gone thru what you did go thru! Just like my past abusers I have a hard time caring for the person/s that have abused me. He does not say in words however he is still hurting. I am sure you have moved on! and have done everything you could to help this person probably hurt by his mother Mary. I avoided relationship to prevent my hurts from my father Paul passing to anyone else. My mom Marilyn was the co-dependent and Braden’s father Ron is the co-dependent. I most definitely see the sign of a abuser/abused and sign of his form of denial which is beer! And always wanting it “his own way”.

Am I describing the “Braden Bryce” you talk about in your blog as the same person who is now goes by Braden VanBryce? I want to break the cycle of abuse. Can you talk about Braden “VanBryce” to me? He might have changed as a person now but can not move past the past because he did not finish “Freedom Session” 12 steps like you have!

I am a survivor. I need to take a 12 steps too for my past co-dependence “relationships” but not for the effect of forms of denial that we use to dull the pain.

So to close I want to Thank You for your Courage, Determination, Strength and for being a Survivor like myself! It is honor to read your journey in Life.

Michael

Comment on Learned helplessness by Makeda Schwein

Makeda Schwein — Thu, 21 Jun 2012 05:01:13 +0000

Can I just say what a relief it is to find someone who actually knows what they're talking about? I hope more people read your stuff so maybe they can start to understand our side of the story!

Comment on Hurting myself by “being nice” by Claudia

Claudia — Mon, 28 May 2012 18:43:05 +0000

He has problems! Yes, you have rights. Good luck!

Comment on “Dependent child” and taxes by Daisy Chiesk

Daisy Chiesk — Mon, 28 May 2012 11:06:15 +0000

TIME is the answer. There are no short cuts. Spend time alone even if you hate to. This will help you re-discover who you are and figure out why you fell for such a jerk. Also, find a friend or local group of divorcees that meet so you can be around others in your situation. Yes you can talk to your married and never-been-married friends/relatives, but they truly have no clue what you’re going through. Being around those who do will speed your healing. Make a list of everything you are losing with the end of your marriage (good and bad). Cry over the stuff you’ll miss. Feel over excitement over the things you won’t. Make a list re-evaluating who you are and who you want to become. Work toward that. I hope this helps. These are the things I’ve done since I divorced. So far it’s working. I have good days and bad, but overall, I’ve learned to be so much happier because he can no longer make me cry. I’ve taken the reins.

Comment on Sleigh bells? Something’s ringing…. by Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 11:12:55 +0000

It looks to me as though Meniere's comes and goes, is an inner-ear problem, and can cause low-frequency hearing loss. (The tinnitus seems to be a result of any hearing loss. That's the current thinking, anyway.) On the other hand, orthostatic hypotension is always there, is a blood-pressure problem, and isn't currently related to hearing loss. I think, at this stage, you'll kind of have to do any diagnosis yourself.